Comments for Change from Choice http://changefromchoice.com NLP Coaching and Training Wed, 15 Dec 2010 00:32:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on Compromise by Compromise (via Change from Choice) | NLP Skills 4 You http://changefromchoice.com/2010/12/01/compromise/#comment-51 Wed, 15 Dec 2010 00:32:42 +0000 http://changefromchoice.wordpress.com/?p=192#comment-51 [...] What do we mean when we talk about compromise?  I get the feeling it can be rather a negative idea. The OED definition is: To settle a dispute by mutual concession; or to bring under suspicion or into danger by indiscreet action, Perhaps the negative connotations of the second definition colour the meaning of the first? It seems to be about not getting enough of what we want, in order to satisfy someone else, or what we are prepared to give up, p … Read More [...]

]]> Comment on Compromise by nlpskills4you http://changefromchoice.com/2010/12/01/compromise/#comment-50 Wed, 15 Dec 2010 00:28:22 +0000 http://changefromchoice.wordpress.com/?p=192#comment-50 Compromise to me often means that you give something up and I give something up too. And compromise is usually done on the level of what we both want. If you change it to the level of what we both need, and then brainstorm solutions that meet both our needs, there won’t we any feeling of compromise anymore. Because we both get what we need. This then is truly win-win.

]]> Comment on The True Cost of Redundancy by Allison http://changefromchoice.com/2010/10/14/the-true-cost-of-redundancy/#comment-21 Sun, 24 Oct 2010 20:17:04 +0000 http://changefromchoice.wordpress.com/?p=88#comment-21 This is a great article about letting go after redundancy. I know lots of people will find your technique useful

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]]> Comment on Choosing Happiness by changefromchoice http://changefromchoice.com/2008/05/15/choosing-happiness/#comment-14 Fri, 27 Aug 2010 16:09:57 +0000 http://changefromchoice.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-14 Hi Carrie
Well, maybe no one did, but an awful lot of us promise it to ourselves.
“I’ll be happy when I’m …” can turn into “I won’t be happy unless I’m…” fill in the appropriate wish; and while we sit in our vinegar bottle sulking that our world isn’t how we like it, we could be taking pleasure in the things that are right, but maybe we don’t notice them because we’re yearning after something else, or concentrating exclusively on how unhappy we are.
There are many, many legitimate reasons to be unhappy, and I wouldn’t dismiss a single one of them, but as someone who has been in the grips of depression at times, what got me out was noticing the tiny bright moments, and allowing myself to admit they existed, and gradually noticing there were a few more, and a few more. Even if it was only “today was not quite as awful as yesterday”, or “I noticed that my partner had done something in the garden and remembered to mention it.”
There’s this theory that we get what you focus on. If we focus on what makes us unhappy, there’s a risk we stop seeing the good things, and however small a part of your life the good things take up, they are there, and it can help to lift the burden of unhappiness, and once we learn how, we can practice, exercise the being happy muscle, and life just gets easier.

]]> Comment on Choosing Happiness by carrie gray http://changefromchoice.com/2008/05/15/choosing-happiness/#comment-13 Thu, 26 Aug 2010 17:46:53 +0000 http://changefromchoice.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-13 Cherry, as Irving Yalom says, whoever promised us happiness and is it a realistic goal ?

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